Relationships can bring up some of the biggest questions we ever ask ourselves.
What do I really want? What do I need? Where are my boundaries? Why do I keep finding myself in the same patterns? What do I want my relationships to look and feel like … now and in the future?
Sometimes the work begins with you.
You may be single or dating and thinking differently about what you want from your next relationship. You may be looking back at past relationships and recognizing patterns you don’t want to repeat. Or you may be in a relationship and trying to understand what you want, what needs to change, and what you can do differently from your side.
And sometimes the work is about the relationship itself.
Long-term relationships change because people and lives change. Priorities shift. Responsibilities grow. Stress takes its toll. Bodies and sexual relationships change. Communication can become strained or superficial. Resentment can build. Two people who once felt deeply connected can gradually find themselves living more like roommates than lovers.
You may know you want something to be different.
You may still be figuring out what that is.
Private coaching gives you the space to slow things down, understand what has been happening, get clearer about what you want, and begin deciding what comes next.
I’m Sandy O’Shea, relationship and intimacy coach, holistic nutritionist, and creator of From Roommates to Lovers.
My approach looks beyond a single problem or symptom. We look at the patterns underneath what’s happening and at the different parts of life and relationships that may be contributing to where you are now.
Depending on what brings you to coaching, we may explore communication, resentment, emotional and physical intimacy, sex and desire, stress, changing bodies and hormones, boundaries, past relationship patterns, expectations, or the everyday pressures that affect the way we relate to ourselves and to each other.
This isn’t about assigning blame or deciding who is right.
It’s about understanding where you are, how you got here, what you want, and what you can begin doing differently.
There are two ways to work with me privately.
The relationship you have with yourself affects every relationship you have with someone else.
Individual coaching gives you the space to step back and look at what you want from your relationships, the patterns you’ve developed over time, where your boundaries are … or need to be …. and how you want to show up differently going forward.
You don’t need to be in a relationship to do this work.
If you’re single or dating, we can explore what you’re looking for in a relationship, what you’ve learned from past relationships, the patterns you don’t want to repeat, and what you want to create differently next time.
If you’re in a relationship, we can look at what you want your relationship to become, what isn’t working for you now, and what you can begin changing from your side … whether or not your partner participates in coaching.
Your coaching includes:
Investment: $1,000 CAD
Long-term relationships rarely become disconnected overnight.
Life gets busy. People change. Priorities shift. Responsibilities pile up. Stress takes over. Communication changes. Sex and affection can become complicated or disappear altogether. Resentment can build quietly.
And somewhere along the way, two people who once felt connected can begin to wonder what happened to them.
Couples coaching gives you a place to understand how you got here, recognize the patterns that have developed between you, and begin figuring out what needs to change.
The goal isn’t to recreate the relationship you had years ago.
You’re not the same people you were then.
It’s about understanding the relationship you have now, getting clearer about what each of you needs and wants, and deciding what you want to build from here.
Your coaching includes:
Investment: $2,500 CAD
Payment options are available.
Private coaching is for people who are willing to look honestly at what’s happening, become more aware of their own patterns, and take responsibility for the things that are within their control.
You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin.
That’s part of the work.
Whether you’re trying to understand yourself and your relationship patterns more clearly or trying to find your way forward together, coaching gives you the time, space and support to begin.
If you’d like to learn more about individual or couples coaching and whether working together might be a good fit, I’d love to hear from you.
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