Sex After 40: Well, This Is Different!
Sex After 40: Well, This Is Different! One day, sex feels familiar. Then suddenly, your desire shifts, your body responds differently, or something that once felt great no longer does. You may find yourself wondering, What the hell happened? Not necessarily anything. Sexual changes after 40 are common. They don’t arrive for everyone at the […]
Getting to Know Each Other Again
Getting to Know Each Other Again After years together, it is easy to believe we know our partner completely. We know their routines, stories and familiar responses. We know how they take their coffee, which shows they refuse to watch and what they are likely to say next. But a long-term partner is not a […]
We Know How We Got Here. Now What?
We Know How We Got Here. Now What? Sometimes the hardest moment is not realizing that we have become disconnected. It is realizing that we finally understand how it happened and still do not know what to do next. We can see how life slowly replaced the relationship. We can trace the stress, the misunderstandings, […]
Healing on Different Timelines
Healing on Different Timelines What happens when you recognize that something needs to change, but your partner isn’t in the same place? You’ve started asking questions. You’re noticing patterns you didn’t recognize before. You may be reading, journalling, going to therapy, exploring your spirituality, or becoming more aware of the experiences and beliefs you’ve carried […]
What Do Women Really Want From Men?
What Do Women Really Want From Men? Ask that question in a room full of people and you will probably hear all kinds of answers. Affection. Attention. Help around the house. Better communication. Romance. Honesty. Security. Someone who remembers the little things. And yes, those things can matter. But beneath many of them is something […]
What Men Need in Long-Term Relationships
What Men Need in Long-Term Relationships Men have emotional needs. That seems like an obvious statement, but those needs are often overlooked—sometimes by their partners and sometimes by men themselves. Many men were raised to believe that their value comes from what they can do, provide, fix, or accomplish. They learned to handle pressure quietly, […]
When the Past Shows Up in the Bedroom
When the Past Shows Up in the Bedroom Sometimes what’s happening between you and your partner isn’t entirely about what’s happening now. You may love being touched, until suddenly you don’t. You may want intimacy but find yourself pulling away when it actually happens. You may freeze, shut down, become uncomfortable or feel pressure that […]
What My Relationships Taught Me About Love, Intimacy & Losing Yourself
What My Relationships Taught Me About Love, Intimacy & Losing Yourself I’ve spent a lot of years learning about relationships. Some of that came through education, reading, listening, asking questions and eventually doing the work I do today. But a hell of a lot of it came from getting things wrong. I’ve hurt people. […]
When You’re the Only One Trying
When You’re the Only One Trying It can be one of the loneliest feelings in a relationship. You’re reading the books, listening to podcasts, initiating conversations, suggesting counselling, and looking for ways to reconnect. You’re paying attention to what has changed between you and trying to find your way back to the closeness you once […]
The Touch We’ve Forgotten
The Touch We’ve Forgotten Why Non-Sexual Affection Matters in Long-Term Relationships When couples tell me they feel more like roommates than partners, one of the first things I ask isn’t about sex. I ask about touch. Do you hold hands? Do you hug each other when one of you leaves for work? Do you reach […]